Ever wonder if you are in a toxic relationship?

If you are wondering about it then you probably are. As women we have this really strong feeling inside. It is usually our gut instinct, and it is usually right. Of course we chose to ignore this the majority of the time because we never want to face reality right? The truth always hurts.

How toxic is toxic?

A toxic relationship has signs that sometimes may not always be clear, we call these red flags. Do you see any of these in your relationship?

  • Name calling
  • Hanging up on you constantly
  • Aggression
  • Jealousy
  • Control
  • Manipulation
  • Possessiveness
  • Criticism
  • Walking on eggshells
  • Not saying what you want to say to “keep the peace”
  • Feeling sad more often than happy


These are just a few signs that you may be in a toxic relationship. Nobody wants to be in a toxic relationship but sometimes we are clouded by the “love bubble” or the idea of being in love that we actually forget about what love truly is? And we often ignore these signs because we mistake this behaviour for love.

Being in a toxic relationship can work both ways, both people can become very toxic, sometimes you just need to step back, go back to basics and evaluate your relationship. Be aware, know the signs, understand your behaviour and your partners. Know your worth, know how much you deserve.

No one wants to be in a toxic relationship right? We all want to be happy. Obviously, so if you feel you are not happy, look at your relationship and go through it in your head and look at how things really are. Don’t sugarcoat it, don’t make excuses. Be 100% honest with yourself (which will be really difficult)

Anyone can be in a toxic relationship, it doesn’t take a certain type of person to be in one. It just evolves and progressively gets worse over time but knowing the signs is critical and calling out bad behaviour in your relationship is so important.  If something happens and you don’t like it you should be in a safe relationships to say to your partner that this is not ok.

Love yourself more than anything in life, by doing this you will know your worth and strive for the absolute best for yourself.

Evaluate your relationship and be happy. Chose real love not fake love


Emma X

Emma is an accomplished advocate for women’s safety in relationships which is based on lived experience. Stay tuned over the next week, where we will be sharing more information on healthy relationships in conjunction with Womens Aid.

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