So last week we talked about the signs that your friendship has gone bad, and we agreed that you would take a few days out to think about how you feel right? And now you’re back so obviously you’ve decided that this friendship has to end, which is a pity but there you have it.

First of all, don’t take this the wrong way, but maybe she feels the same, and is over your drama also, but doesn’t know how to handle it either. This is actually the best case scenario, because it means she won’t fight you on this. Just phase it out slowly with no showdown, see her less and less over a few weeks or months and just let it happen. At the end of the day, if she hasn’t done anything awful to you, there’s no reason why you can’t be okay with each other when you meet, so try to keep it easy.

If a showdown has to happen, just remember the following:

Be honest. Don’t lie and say that you’re busy or have something else on. You will surely forget and post a picture on instagram of yourself having fun without her.

If she did something that has really upset you, think about if it’s worth bringing it up. Will she genuinely understand and be sorry? If not you’ll just end up more frustrated.

Don’t put it all on them. Acknowledge that you just grew apart and that no one is to blame.

Wish her well. At the end of the day, while you don’t want to be part of her everyday life, after all you’ve been through, surely you want her to be happy, just happy somewhere else. Focus on the positive and be mature.

No matter what, just be kind and mature.

On a final note, don’t announce place a public announcement on social media like this:

If you truly don't want to have any more contact with this person, you'll probably have to be super specific about that.


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