Lets get real. Many, many teenagers are using porn to learn about sex. This is problematic for a number of reasons, most of which revolve around the fact that porn gives a very unrealistic picture about what love, relationships and sex are actually like.
“The sad truth is that the vast majority of young people learn almost everything about sex from porn,” New York City–based sex educator and writer Gigi Engle told Teen Vogue. “It’s extremely accessible, and without proper sex ed in school and inaccurate information being doled out, it’s the only resource they have. There are a variety of problematic and dangerous effects of this form of education.”
Here’s what you need to know:
It is unrealistic
Porn is heavily choreographed, edited and well lit. Most videos are also 5-10 minutes long, so they don’t often have time to share a pizza or watch an episode of ‘Stranger Things’ first. Real life involves more bumbling, conversation, awkwardness, and should always feature a conversation about consent (more on that here). Also, most bodies don’t look like that.
Its usually Not Safe
Porn actors do not use protection, which does little to promote safe sex and to share the message that it is no less enjoyable when Johnny’s got you covered.